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This may very well be one of my most profound and important blogs of all times. Im going to be teaching you how to control the very nature that makes you be you. Thats right I’m talking about your emotions. Emotions are why we get happy, sad, excited, and angry. Emotions alone can direct or alter the path of livelihood for an individual. “Kent what are you talking about?” You may ask. Im talking about how to take control of your emotions, the very thing that can decide if your outcome in whatever situation will be a success or failure.
Okay so let me break this down. In the beginning of a relationship their seems to be a certain emotion between both parties. Usually at first its excitement and after a few weeks or even a month or two we realize that the other person might not agree to absolutely everything that we do or say. By this time depending on if you have been spending everyday together with the person we even realize that they are either slow to get angry or quick to get angry. However, I’m getting ahead of myself. So in the beginnings of most relationships there is a certain level of nerves shaking, and a build up of hope that this will be the one. The one that will last forever! After serval dates and a handful of first-timers for both you guys its time to determine if this relationship will grow or not. At this point we are to ask each other and our selves “is this what I really want?”. After finding out if they smoke or not, drink or not, sex a lot its time decide what you can live with and what you can not.
So now you introduce each other to rules. Rules are good right?? Rules are in place to make matters better right? Rules are what structure the relationship right? Well rules are good and bad. Let me explain why… once you have made rules for the relationship it’s like the things you told him not to do is whats starting to happen more and more. The places you told him not to go, he is going there more, and the people you told him not to talk to are making their way into his space all the time. On the flip side the communication you been asking her for is all of a sudden a struggle to get, and the respect that she once had for you all of a sudden seem to be gone out the window, and last but not least the more you ask her to cook dinner it’s like the more she does not cook. What has happened to the once seemed perfect relationship? The passion, the pursuit, the chase has come to a screeching halt. The reason relationships fail is because our emotions do not line up to what they were when we first pursued the relationship. You remember in the beginning of meeting each other you use to wear your hair in different styles all the time, or he would invite you out on dinner every Friday, and Saturday nights. We thought thats what we were getting by getting into a relationship with the person. We thought the high times and fun times would last forever. However, life happens and bills pill up. One of the first things to go is one night the normal dinner dates y’all use to share. All of a sudden with student loans and car payments, you don’t have as much flexibility to get your hair done as much as you use to. To me it is not called being materialistic, but its an false expectation we had received from the other person in hopes that they could keep up this amazing life style they presented to you in the beginning.
All of a sudden its easier to get mad at your partner when things don’t go according to plan. It is easier now to stay mad longer about small arguments than its ever been. OMG, did I just say arguments? Yes, you might have just experienced y’alls very first major disagreement. (side note: Has anyone besides me feel like once the first argument is out the way it just open the doors for the rest of them?). Controlling your emotions can help you to avoid arguments with others which can cause a build up of emotional stress on the other person. If you can discipline your emotions you can direct your life. Sometimes when it comes to relationships its not what we say to the other person, but its how we say it. Saying normal sentences in a heated conversation can make it over well to the other person but take that same sentence and add a bad tone due to a bad attitude to it and watch what reaction you get out of the other person. You have let your emotions get in the way. If your not careful your emotions can cause you to say things you will regret later, or even do things you will live to regret as well. A lot of break ups between couples that have been together for a while is due to emotional stress outs!! These are blow outs in the mind fueled by the blow outs in the heart. Break up can be quick and fast or slow and tedious. However, one thing that all break ups have in common is they never feel good. The attachment that was once there for the other person is now getting ripped from your heart and replaced by a cold, empty, drum of pitty and in some cases regret. If we can master our emotions and control our tongues ( because our words have power) then the direction for our lives would go according to how we see it and plan it. If we don’t control our words and emotions well just get ready the the epic breakup is in your near future.
Kent Gant Jr is a ordained teacher and founder of www.kentgantjr.com, which has a total weekly reach in the hundred thousands. Kent earned an associate degree in business management and supervisor training. Following college, he quickly moved into management and managed serval grocery retailing stores along the southeast of America. While publishing his first book in 2015, Kent began traveling and making guest appearances on television and every other news outlet possible to share his ministry with the world. Kent has constant viewers all the time, and his social media following is loyal to reading whatever he is writing next.